This Year, as a Caregiver, I Promise…
As printed in “The Beacon” San Antonio’s Christian Newspaper
Article Date: January 2010 – The Beacon Online
by Starr Calo-oy
Starr Calo-oy
To agree with my loved one instead of arguing with her. To let her think she is right– To yield as Jesus does.
To stop correcting her. To realize I do not need to try to change anyone but myself!
To help preserve her dignity as a human being rather than making her feel stupid. To respect, encourage and praise her.
To stop keeping a record of her wrongs. To forgive unconditionally as Jesus does my sins.
To encourage others to forgive her too. To ask her forgiveness– to make peace. To spend more time listening to her. To ask her about her life and go through the photo albums with her.
To say “I love you” more often and make physical contact with her; to hug and kiss her more.
To get more rest and take better care of myself.
To turn her care over to another if I begin losing control of myself.
To spend time daily praying WITH my loved one. To take better care of her SPIRITUALLY.
To think before I speak, to speak softly, to edify and build her up rather than use my mouth to tear her down.
“4Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1Corinthians 13:4–7
“Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may be well with you in the land which the LORD your God is giving you.” Deuteronomy 5:16
Need I say more? The Lord said it all–
Starr & Bob Calo–oy cared for the terminally ill and people with different forms of dementia in their own home for 25 years and are the authors of 4 caregiving books. Starr hosts Caregiving 101 and Marriage 101 on Great Day Sunday on KENS–TV 5 every Sunday morning and both of the Calo–oy’s host 2, one–hour radio talk shows on KKYX–680am every Saturday morning; Caregiving 101 & Marriage 101. Starr & Bob are retired preachers make numerous appearances on television all over America and are the proud parents of 10 children. They are currently working on 3 books, give free marriage classes in their home and provide free caregiving coaching and marriage counseling. You can reach them from their websites at www.caregiversadvice.net, www.marriage101.net or call 210.521.8668.
Starr writes monthly for “The Beacon” – a San Antonio Christian Newspaper. The Beacon online at: The Beacon.
Starr & Bob Calo-oy created CaregiversAdvice.net to help, encourage, and support caregivers. Through weekly Radio Shows on KKYX 680am San Antonio, they host special guests who cover many unique topics concerning caregiving. They also have weekly TV Segments on KENS TV 5 San Antonio where they share caregiving and marriage tips. All of these programs are archived as Radio Podcasts and TV Podcasts for your easy listening. Visit their sister site, Marriage101.net for marriage help and encouragement. Starr has written Four Books on Caregiving.
