Caregiving 101 » The Beacon http://caregiversadvice.net/blog Caregiving 101 - Caregiving Support - Caring for the elderly Thu, 02 Sep 2010 22:41:46 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 The Good, The Bad, and the Angry http://caregiversadvice.net/blog/2009/09/04/the-good-the-bad-and-the-angry/ http://caregiversadvice.net/blog/2009/09/04/the-good-the-bad-and-the-angry/#comments Fri, 04 Sep 2009 22:57:00 +0000 admin http://caregiversadvice.net/blog/?p=176 As printed in “The Beacon” San Antonio’s Christian Newspaper

Article Date: Wed, 07/29/2009 – The Beacon Online – Article
by Starr Calo-oy

Starr Calo-oy

Starr Calo-oy

All forms of dementia are brain damage and one trait of some brain-damaged individuals is violent behavior. There are certain triggers that can precede a catastrophic emergency in some people.

If you get impatient and try to hurry them, it can cause agitation, which in turn could lead to violence.

He can become frustrated from not being able to make himself understood.

When asked questions he can’t answer or if you ask too many in a row without giving ample time for him to answer could cause him to lash out at you.

Large crowds, noise and unfamiliar faces and places could result in a physical confrontation.

Dementia

People with dementia are constantly trying to make sense of their ever-changing environment. They cannot remember what happened ten minutes ago, so telling them that you have told them something all day long and will they please stop asking the same question will only make some people want to smack you in the chops!

If your loved one has a history of past violent episodes, then you need to remember how you have provoked them in the past. No, you don’t have the right to get anything off of your chest by venting back at them no matter how he treated you when you were young. This is not the time to get back at them for all the misery you have put up with all your life. He is mentally ill now and needs you to stay calm, but if you cannot, find him a place to live as soon as possible, where patience and love can be demonstrated.

Tips
  • 1. Pray for the Holy Spirit to bring peace to your loved one.
  • 2. Use short, simple sentences when talking to him.
  • 3. Maintain eye contact with him and keep smiling sweetly.
  • 4. Sing or dance!
  • 5. Give him a bowl of his favorite ice cream, but put it in a paper bowl!
  • 6. Don’t restrain him or it could result in injury to both of you.
  • 7. If he starts throwing things at you, use anything that is handy as a shield and leave him alone a couple of minutes.
  • 8. Contact the doctor

Remember, you set the pace of your home and with the Lord’s help, have the power to maintain the peace.

Starr writes monthly for “The Beacon” – a San Antonio Christian Newspaper. Visit The Beacon online at: The Beacon.

Starr & Bob Calo-oy created CaregiversAdvice.net to help, encourage, and support caregivers. Through weekly Radio Shows on KKYX 680am San Antonio, they host special guests who cover many unique topics concerning caregiving. They also have weekly TV Segments on KENS TV 5 San Antonio where they share caregiving and marriage tips. All of these programs are archived as Radio Podcasts and TV Podcasts for your easy listening. Visit their sister site, Marriage101.net for marriage help and encouragement. Starr has written Four Books on Caregiving.

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